2:26 p.m. - 2007-06-02
John.......Louisiana
My husband, John, has taken a position as an engineer with a company in Louisiana that requires him to be gone for extended periods of time. To be honest it's not bad. I miss him, but we talk almost daily and I have Zoe to keep me company.
She's getting so big!! 10 months old and as headstrong as ever. She has so much personality and is just a general joy.
As for John being gone so often, I was apprehensive about this job initially. you hear horror stories about men who work away from their wives and the behavior that inevitably ensues. Anxious as I was however, I went with the flow and did my best to be a supportive as I possibly could. In fact, I did all of the leg and red tape work to get him on with the company....he basically just had to show up. When your woman doesn't really want you to leave for work but she devotes hours upon hours to making it happen for you only because she wants to make your wishes a relaity, well, that seems pretty loving to me.
Some how John managed to remind me repeatedly that with I did was nothing.
:-(
I've continued to remain supportive and kind and tried my hardest to keep a lid on my insecurities (Several of John's ex's live in Louisiana, one of which he almost ended his life over...Brenda). I have not allowed my mind to wander and try to focus on his words to me, 'There is no one I want other than you. I will never be unfaithful or dishonest.'
We're over a month in and this week I suffered a bit of a blow. I received a strange hang up call from a woman from a number in Louisiana a few days back. When I mentioned it to him in passing he didn't say anything and abruptly ended the conversation. The next time I talked to him he asked for the number and then suddenly divulged that when he first arrived in Louisiana and was staying at the hotel he ran into two men, one of whom he 'thinks' is "Brenda's" brother but never talked to that gentleman. I stated that surely he would have recognized him as his sister's ex and he stammered and said 'well, he didn't have his glasses on.'
LONG SILENCE
Then I said, but why would he have your number? John said, I was wondering that too. This was said with a great deal of uncertainty.

This sounds like 100% bullshit.

Regardless, I have played it like it meant nothing and moved on to the next topic every time we've spoken since, but now he's being a complete asshole. Very condescending, rude, and just plain abusive.

I really don't know what to think.

Any ideas??

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